Why You’re Not Failing Diets (They’re Failing You)

If I had a dollar for every time I said, “I’ll start again Monday,” I’d probably have enough to retire on a beach somewhere, sipping something fruity with a tiny umbrella in it.

But let’s be honest: how many Mondays have come and gone, each one full of promises and rules? Eat this, not that. Count this, track that. Be good. Stay strong. And when we don’t stick to the plan perfectly, we blame ourselves.

Here’s the truth that diet culture never wants us to hear:

You are not failing the diets. The diets are failing you.

Diets are Designed to Fail (Yes, Really)

Most diets don’t want you to succeed in the long run. They thrive on repeat customers. That’s why 95% of people regain the weight they lose within a few years — and many gain even more.

Diets set you up with impossible rules, often under the disguise of “lifestyle changes.” But when those rules become unsustainable — because you’re a human, not a robot — they whisper, “You just didn’t try hard enough.”

That’s a lie. And you deserve better.

Let me tell you something you might need to hear today: You are not lazy. You are not weak. You are not broken.

Your body is wired for survival. When you restrict calories, skip meals, or cut out whole food groups, your body panics. It increases hunger hormones, slows your metabolism, and makes you think about food constantly — not because you’re obsessed, but because your body is trying to protect you.

That’s biology. Not a lack of willpower.

Ever notice how “being good” all week often leads to “falling off the wagon” on the weekend?

That’s not a failure — it’s a natural response to deprivation. The more we restrict, the more we crave. And eventually, the pendulum swings in the other direction.

This cycle of guilt, shame, and bingeing is exhausting — physically and emotionally. It disconnects us from our hunger, our joy, and even our self-worth.

Here’s the good news: You don’t have to stay stuck in that cycle.

Instead of asking, “How can I control my eating?” we can start asking, “How can I care for my body?”

You can:

This shift doesn’t happen overnight — and it’s not always easy. But it’s so worth it.

Let me be clear: You are not a before-and-after photo. You are not a number on a scale. You are a whole person with a life to live — not a body to shrink.

You don’t have to wait until you reach a certain weight or follow a perfect plan to feel good in your skin. You can start now. With small, gentle steps. With kindness instead of criticism. With curiosity instead of control.

If you’ve been carrying around guilt, shame, or frustration because diets haven’t “worked” for you — I want you to know:

You’re not alone.

You’re not a failure.

And you’re not the problem.

Let this be your permission slip to stop chasing the next diet and start tuning into you.

Because your body is not the enemy. It’s your home. And you are allowed to treat it with care, respect, and compassion — no matter what the diet industry says.

Need help getting started?

My free guide, 5 Steps to Tune Into Hunger and Fullness, is a gentle place to begin. It’s not a rulebook — it’s an invitation to reconnect with your body and build trust again.

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